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Sunday, 25 October 2009 23:53

I'm a 14 YO Atheist And My Dad Is Going Crazy

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YOUNG MAN:

My parents have been bothering me for several months now about how I turned atheist and it's getting out of hand. They talk to me for sometimes hours a night and don't listen to any of my arguments, but want me to listen them. I'm forced to go to church and they want me to take communion.

My grandma is very religious and she's just going crazy, she just wants me to "accept that there is just some things I don't know". My Dad always says that all atheists are negative because he says all the atheists he met were. My parents always say "you're just 14" and "we've been on the earth for a long time and I've seen the lord". God it's annoying.

Now my parents want to take away all my things, internet, video games, etc. because I "need to get focused". They think they can force me to believe. I can't show them some articles about myths about atheism because they'll punish me for sure. They're making my life very miserable and they blame my unhappiness in my atheism.

My Dad is also about to go to extreme measures like therapy and sending me to another school, A JESUS SCHOOL. They also think just because they're medical doctors they know everything and every time I prove them wrong they ignore me. Please, I want help, you guys have to do something, I don't care what it is, get me out of this hell. I choose to email you because you brought up what I always try to say, but they don't listen.

MARQUEZ:

Thank you so much for writing to me.

I really do not know what to say or do with you and for you. I do not think I have a magic wand that can vanquish all your problems and I do not know how best to approach your situation. I also do not know where we should go with this, however, I believe it is important for us just to keep in contact because you and I see the problem of religion similarly but from different perspectives.

Can I ask you a few questions, if I may....

1. Whereabouts are you? In the US? Australia? UK?
2. What religion do your parents follow?
3. Are most of your friends in the same situation?
4. What do you think should people like myself, or people in general, should do to help people like you?

I know these are all questions that may not have quick answers but matters of religion are never quick.

____________________

YOUNG MAN:

[Answers to questions are removed for privacy reasons]

I know I over reacted, but sometimes I get angry you know. I hope I didn't come off wrong. I think I just need someone to talk to. The only thing is that my Dad has changed since I became atheist, he's gotten more stubborn and seems to never like me be alone. Despite him saying he's happy he knows this, I don't think he realizes the damage it's done to our relationship. He also has this thing of "not trusting me" because I'm atheist and not letting "my mind wonder". He says he's not forcing me, but he's not giving me a choice. I can be atheist and he continues to always talk about religion or I "just trust him". This experience has made me much wiser at a young age, I'm a part of an atheist forum and I learn a lot about tolerance and seeing others views, despite my Dad saying I'm "closed minded".

____________________

MARQUEZ:

You said you needed someone to talk to. I am here for you and I will just post comments as they come to my mind to help you balance things out with what your parents are enforcing on you.

Thanks for answering my questions. You said that people should teach religious tolerance however, if you think about it, religions themselves cannot tolerate each other because at the core they contradict each other.

For example, Christians say Jesus is the son of god while Muslims say Jesus is not the son of god. Yet neither have any evidence or proof that can settle the argument. Even if we do not have any evidence or proof, there can be no logical criteria in which we can find out for sure. Religious beliefs are simply to be accepted or rejected as a matter of personal choice.

When we as a society say we should tolerate each other?s religions, all we are really doing is, ignoring the glaring contradictions that each religion is claiming.

You are not being closed minded. Religious people are the usually the ones who are close minded. They tell you to open your mind only so you can accept their beliefs. But if you open your mind to other belief systems, they do not like it. They only like it when it goes their way, you see.

Further, each religion is arrogant enough to claim that their religion holds the truth and everyone else?s religions are false.

To help you and others like you, I am considering posting the conversations between you and I. I will change your name of course so it does not show your real name. But I think this is the best way we can get other people involved and awake to the issues that children are facing today.

What do you think?

___________________

YOUNG MAN:

I think posting the conversation is fine. I also want to add what you said about what religious people think about open mindedness. I know more about the Bible's contradictions than anyone in my family, yet they say I'm closed minded. That doesn't even make sense. It seems when my Dad talks about religion logic goes right out the door. He is at this point just trying to ignore me say just "trust your parents". Every time I say if there was a christian child in the same situation as me trying to get away from another religion he says "I don't care about those other people", isn't that being close minded? It's just amazing how silly all this religion is.

___________________

NOTE: If you have similar stories or comments like these please SUBMIT THEM HERE. Likewise if you have a recommendation, suggestion or coYOUNG MAN:

My parents have been bothering me for several months now about how I turned atheist and it's getting out of hand. They talk to me for sometimes hours a night and don't listen to any of my arguments, but want me to listen them. I'm forced to go to church and they want me to take communion.

My grandma is very religious and she's just going crazy, she just wants me to "accept that there is just some things I don't know". My Dad always says that all atheists are negative because he says all the atheists he met were. My parents always say "you're just 14" and "we've been on the earth for a long time and I've seen the lord". God it's annoying.

Now my parents want to take away all my things, internet, video games, etc. because I "need to get focused". They think they can force me to believe. I can't show them some articles about myths about atheism because they'll punish me for sure. They're making my life very miserable and they blame my unhappiness in my atheism.

My Dad is also about to go to extreme measures like therapy and sending me to another school, A JESUS SCHOOL. They also think just because they're medical doctors they know everything and every time I prove them wrong they ignore me. Please, I want help, you guys have to do something, I don't care what it is, get me out of this hell. I choose to email you because you brought up what I always try to say, but they don't listen.

MARQUEZ:

Thank you so much for writing to me.

I really do not know what to say or do with you and for you. I do not think I have a magic wand that can vanquish all your problems and I do not know how best to approach your situation. I also do not know where we should go with this, however, I believe it is important for us just to keep in contact because you and I see the problem of religion similarly but from different perspectives.

Can I ask you a few questions, if I may....

1. Whereabouts are you? In the US? Australia? UK?
2. What religion do your parents follow?
3. Are most of your friends in the same situation?
4. What do you think should people like myself, or people in general, should do to help people like you?

I know these are all questions that may not have quick answers but matters of religion are never quick.

____________________

YOUNG MAN:

[Answers to questions are removed for privacy reasons]

I know I over reacted, but sometimes I get angry you know. I hope I didn't come off wrong. I think I just need someone to talk to. The only thing is that my Dad has changed since I became atheist, he's gotten more stubborn and seems to never like me be alone. Despite him saying he's happy he knows this, I don't think he realizes the damage it's done to our relationship. He also has this thing of "not trusting me" because I'm atheist and not letting "my mind wonder". He says he's not forcing me, but he's not giving me a choice. I can be atheist and he continues to always talk about religion or I "just trust him". This experience has made me much wiser at a young age, I'm a part of an atheist forum and I learn a lot about tolerance and seeing others views, despite my Dad saying I'm "closed minded".

____________________

MARQUEZ:

You said you needed someone to talk to. I am here for you and I will just post comments as they come to my mind to help you balance things out with what your parents are enforcing on you.

Thanks for answering my questions. You said that people should teach religious tolerance however, if you think about it, religions themselves cannot tolerate each other because at the core they contradict each other.

For example, Christians say Jesus is the son of god while Muslims say Jesus is not the son of god. Yet neither have any evidence or proof that can settle the argument. Even if we do not have any evidence or proof, there can be no logical criteria in which we can find out for sure. Religious beliefs are simply to be accepted or rejected as a matter of personal choice.

When we as a society say we should tolerate each other?s religions, all we are really doing is, ignoring the glaring contradictions that each religion is claiming.

You are not being closed minded. Religious people are the usually the ones who are close minded. They tell you to open your mind only so you can accept their beliefs. But if you open your mind to other belief systems, they do not like it. They only like it when it goes their way, you see.

Further, each religion is arrogant enough to claim that their religion holds the truth and everyone else?s religions are false.

To help you and others like you, I am considering posting the conversations between you and I. I will change your name of course so it does not show your real name. But I think this is the best way we can get other people involved and awake to the issues that children are facing today.

What do you think?

___________________

YOUNG MAN:

I think posting the conversation is fine. I also want to add what you said about what religious people think about open mindedness. I know more about the Bible's contradictions than anyone in my family, yet they say I'm closed minded. That doesn't even make sense. It seems when my Dad talks about religion logic goes right out the door. He is at this point just trying to ignore me say just "trust your parents". Every time I say if there was a christian child in the same situation as me trying to get away from another religion he says "I don't care about those other people", isn't that being close minded? It's just amazing how silly all this religion is.

___________________

NOTE: If you have similar stories or comments like these please SUBMIT THEM HERE. Likewise if you have a recommendation, suggestion or comment that can help this young man, contact us using the same form. Cheers.

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  • Comment Link Tylor Saturday, 24 March 2012 22:21 posted by Tylor

    Since there is no date i am unsure if the problem has been resovled but heres my 2 cents anyways i am about the same age as youngman and my parent are very accepting of new things so i dint have a problem but as for young man i see 2 ways you could try and resolve the issue pretend like they converted you and just put up with the bullshit or stick it out and dont go to curch or that juesus school until they accept you for who you are and then they put you back in other school

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